Wednesday, June 24, 2009

Until you've walked in their shoes...

And the new number 4 of my Strengths Finder Top 5 ....

4. Empathy:
People who are especially talented in the Empathy theme can sense the feelings of other people by imagining themselves in others’ lives or others’ situations.
Because of your strengths, you may choose to place games simply to enjoy them. Perhaps you gravitate to people who share this trait. Perhaps you instinctively notice who is having fun and who is not. These insights might affect how you interact with individuals. Chances are good that you sometimes figure out what someone is thinking or feeling; other times you may struggle. Your insights about people might impel you to utter words of praise. Perhaps you are comfortable calling attention to someone’s particular talents, strengths, contributions, appearance, position, education, promotions, or awards. It’s very likely that you think creatively. You see possibilities. You are inclined to reject traditional approaches to problem solving. You trust your feelings to lead you to the proper solution. Instinctively, you naturally sense the good qualities people possess. Consistently you find something to like in most of the individuals you meet. You keep reminding others of the reasons why you think a person is so special. In the process, you probably boost self-esteem and confidence of newcomers. Driven by your talents, you may recall that as a child you were somewhat attuned to the moods, feelings, expectations, or values of your elders. Perhaps your awareness of what some of these authority figures were thinking or feeling helped you govern what you said or did.

You can sense the emotions of those around you. You can feel what they are feeling as though their feelings are your own. Intuitively, you are able to see the world through their eyes and share their perspective. You do not necessarily agree with each person’s perspective – this would be sympathy, not Empathy. You do not necessarily condone the choices each person makes, but you do understand. This instinctive ability to understand is powerful. You hear the unvoiced questions. You anticipate the need. Where others grapple for words, you see, to find the right words and right tone. You help people find the right phrases to express their feelings – to themselves as well as to others. You help them give voice to their emotional life. For all these reasons other people are drawn to you.


This definitely points towards my Individualization theme...everyone has gifts and talents and has something to contribute. It also makes me ultra sensitive to people though and this can be a bad thing (and not only because it means that there is a possibility that i will cry while watching commericals, let alone movies...). Because I can sense the feelings of others, it can be overwhelming when it's all negative, all the time. It can wear me down quick. I want to help them get out of that downward spiral, but they have to make the choice to want to as well. I choose to surround myself with friends that don't live in the pit of negativeness...everyone has a bad day, but those who choose to live there are really missing out.

okay...so, no side notes today... I'm trying to get things done before my trip to Oklahoma City this Friday. Going to see my brother, Dan, and sis-in-law, Jenn...i'm so excited!!! YAY!!!

Monday, June 22, 2009

Making a list...checking it twice...gonna find out...

Okay, okay, so I promised that I would add my new strengths from Strengths Finder and I have yet to do so... It's been busy, but I am slowly understanding what they mean to me and that God allowed the growth for a reason, so I wanted to put them out there.

I'll start with my new number 5 and work my way up again.
5. Arranger:
People who are especially talented in the Arranger theme can organize, but they also have a flexibility that complements this ability. They like to figure out how all of the pieces and resources can be arranged for maximum productivity.


You are a conductor. When faced with a complex situation involving many factors, you enjoy managing all of the variables, aligning and realigning them until you are sure you have arranged them in the most productive configuration possible. In your mind there is nothing special about what you are doing. You are simply trying to figure out the best way to get things done. But others, lacking in this theme, will be in awe of your ability. “How can you keep so many things in your head at once?” they will ask. “How can you stay so flexible, so willing to shelve well-laid plans in favor of some brand-new configurations that has just occurred to you?” But you cannot imagine behaving in any other way. You are a shining example of effective flexibility, whether you are changing travel schedules at the last minute because a better fare has popped up or mulling over just the right combination of people and resources to accomplish the new project. From the mundane to the complex, you are always looking for the perfect configuration. Of course, you are at your best in dynamic situations. Confronted with the unexpected, some complain that plans devised with such care cannot be changed, while others take refuge in the existing rules or procedures. You don’t do either. Instead, you jump into the confusion, devising new options, hunting for new paths of least resistance, and figuring out new partnerships – because, after all, there might just be a better way.

Chances are good that you are genuinely fond of your teammates. You can see the good in them more readily than most people can. This explains why individuals like having you in their groups. Because of your strengths, you usually interject a lot of fun, energy, and light-heartedness into team activities. You enjoy transforming the mood of individuals or groups from sad to happy. You frequently remind people life is too short to waste time being listless, angry, upset, frustrated, or miserable. Instinctively, you likely are the human spark plug of your team. That is, you inspire and energize people to dedicate themselves to a task. Once a course of action is chosen, perhaps you are the person who says, “We’ve talked long enough. Let’s get started right now. Why wait? Let’s just do it!” By nature, you probably have a reputation among your teammates for being a very good recruiter. You likely convince people to join groups to participate in events or work on tasks.

This one sounds a little like one of my other ones that was a top 5 with somewhat of a twist...Activator...the part where I say let's go...forget planning the whole route...let's just take it one street light at a time. Let's make things happen! But this Arranger part takes that and says...make a plan, at least until to changes, then make another plan. Now, if you know me you know I love a plan, a list, a guide. I make many plans and lists in my life...but I'm not tied to them. I'm a spirit of the law type of person (as oppose to letter of the law)...i know that life is not predictable, so, put a plan in place, follow as needed, and divert as needed. It saves a lot of emotional breakdowns by knowing that it's okay to deviate as life occurs...because don't we all know that LIFE occurs!

I have a few side notes to share...so, hopefully there will be another post later today with some updates on life.
Until then...
xo much love xo